On describing herself as a 'weird fat girl' Like I'm gonna put this in a container, like, here's my experience, here's how it felt. But I think it does, and here's what happened to me. So I think part of writing the book was trying to say, some people might not think that what I'm describing constitutes abuse. You recognize that, right?' But it was a lot more subtle than that. But I think it does, and here's what happened to me.Īnd it was weird, because I think I write about in the book how, you know, people like domestic violence narratives to be very clear cut, and I talk about in the book how on some level I really wished, I wish she had just punched me in the face, and I had this black eye, and I could be like, 'Hey, she punched me. part of writing the book was trying to say, some people might not think that what I'm describing constitutes abuse. And I think it can be really harmful, because it doesn't permit space for a multitude of experiences, some of which can be bad - not because the relationship is a lesbian relationship, but because somebody in the relationship is not well. But I think you have a lot of people sort of translate this into, 'women aren't capable of hurting each other,' or 'women aren't capable of abusing each other.' Lesbian relationships are the fantasy, the ideal - I would say that I think lesbians and queer women perpetrate that that idea.

But my sort of day-to-day life, I don't really have to deal with it, because I'm married to a woman, and that's just not part of my experience right now, which is actually really lovely. I always talk about how in my relationship, like, obviously the patriarchy affects me in all kinds of ways. There's this idea that not having men present in a relationship takes a certain kind of stress off, which sexually is actually true. Book Reviews 'Her Body And Other Parties:' Be Your Own Madwoman

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